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Well, just when I thought I could start to relax after the stress of the move, I have a new anxiety to deal with.

See, my new landlord has given my mom and I a tenancy agreement form to fill out, and as it is a legal document, I'll have to put my legal name down, basically outing myself to him.

So I am trying really hard to not dwell on the possiblity of him freaking out over it, but I'm not succeeding all that well ...

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Dawnfyre's picture

when you file your taxes this year, use your feminine name, the one you "want" on the lease agreement.
then it is not fraud, but your fem name becomes a legal a.k.a.
the CRA has been using my fem name since 1998, yet I only legally changed it last year.


Stupidity is a capital offense. A summary not indictable.

If no intent to defraud then no crime committed

Rhona McCloud's picture

My opinion is based on the UK situation as I understand it.

It does seem likely that your legal name is the name you are now known as and especially if you use the same surname as your mother then nobody is likely to question it. When young I travelled all over the world including the USA without being questioned despite it being before birth certificates were changed.

Rhona McCloud

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In Tennessee, you can use any name you wish at any time as long as it is not considered to be for fraudulent purposes, i.e., to defraud someone. So unless you intend to slip out without paying the rent or cheating him in some way, I don't see a problem. Note:I am not a lawyer but you might want to call one where you are and get an opinion.

Waterdog

Oh hell....

Andrea Lena's picture

I know it's really easy for me to say this when I'm still mostly in the closet, but if since you intend to move forward, perhaps looking into a legal name change is one of the things to consider? Is it a hallmark move in your journey? Are there any circumstances preventing you from changing your name or is there something that compels you to keep your previous identity? Certainly a talk with a lawyer might help? And discussing this issue in therapy might be a good thing as well? My prayers always.

  

To be alive is to be vulnerable. Madeleine L'Engle
Love, Andrea Lena

mostly its a money issue, Drea.

now that we are starting to get our financial house in order, I can start saving for the name change.

huggles always!

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Out yourself

Be forthright and tell him, so that when he runs a credit check on you it doesn't look like you're pulling a scam. And if he's a jerk and acts weird you probably didn't want him for a landlord anyway. Either way you'll be able to stop worrying about the unknown.

In the UK

Angharad's picture

a statutory declaration counts as a legal change of name and that costs about £5. I'd have thought the Canadian legal system was based upon the English one. On doing some checking I find it's even more bureaucratic than over here plus much more expensive.

Be upfront with your landlord as long as you pay the rent on time, he should have no worries, especially if you tell him the legal name change is in progress or will be as soon as you can afford it.

Angharad

Deed Poll

I wish we could do name change by Deed Poll here in the States. It costs a pretty penny and up to 6-8 months via the Court System here in Massachusetts.

In Texas

You just about have to get a lawyer. This is to avoid the judges that will not do it, no reasons given. Without a lawyer it costs around $250, with around $1K or more (sometimes a lot more).

Canadian Name change costs are per province...

In my province I had to pay $240 for the name change plus $90 for running an ad announcing my intent to change my name and $28 for a new birth certificate. $10 for my Social Insurance Card and $75 for my drivers license.... (240+90+28+10+75 = 443 not including taxes where appropriate.

It would be different in another province.

Stat dec

Indeed. Five pounds for five minutes. The forms can be found on the internet, and all you do is read it out, sign it, pay a fiver to the brief and then some extra cash for however many certified copies you need.

I sent one to my landlord, with a letter of explanation, and got back the sweetest reply imaginable. The UK equivalent of the IRS in America (HMRC) did it over the phone, and automatically contacted the equivalent of Social Security (DWP) so I didn't have to. Simple process with driving licence and National Health Service*, banks, Charing Cross, work...

*Within a month of my legal name change I was sent an appointment for breast cancer screening!