Yeah, I know this is sudden, but I just had a nice little chat with my dad. He said I can either cut my hair, or move.
I'm not cutting my hair.
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To put a finer point on this, I live deeply in the closet. My hair is the only thing I have that I can use to separate myself from being "male", and that ain't much. To cut it off is like asking him to cut off his penis.
I don't know what I'm going to do, but I'll figure something out. I've been waiting for a sign that I need to move on with my life, and I think I just got it. If that's the way he wants it, that's the way he'll get it. He hasn't shown me an ounce of respect in years. It's always been his way or the highway, and that's fine. I'm through backing down and cowering.