The Working Girl Blog #31: I just read an article in Yahoo

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The Working Girl Blog #31:
I just read an article in Yahoo, or
I can't stand it anymore! I'm shopping!


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Yes, yes, I know it’s too soon to post another blog, so soon after I posted my last one. (See http://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/blog/19842/working-girl-blog-3... ).

But after I posted that blog, I logged on to Yahoo!, just winding down before going on home. (We were still at the office, all because of this furshlugginer assignment that I got. See http://bigclosetr.us/topshelf/blog/19796/working-girl-blog-2...
).

Anyway, while I was there, I read an article entitled 'Top 10 Iconic Dresses.' (See http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/beauty/the-top-10-most-iconic... )

It was all about the ten most iconic dresses of the past fifty years. There was Audrey Hepburn in an awfully sexy, slinky LBD from the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's, Marilyn’s Happy-birthday-Mr.-President gown, Madonna's wedding dress outfit at the first MTV awards, J-Lo's OMG Grammy dress, Diane Von Furstenberg's wrap dress, Jackie Kennedy's inaugural gala dress, Cher's mardi gras-like costume at the Oscar's, Bianca Jagger's dress at Studio 54's opening, Edie Sedgwick in her cute mini-plus-leotards and Gwyneth in pink at the Oscar's.

Most of these were a little before my time (except for J-Lo's and Gwyneth's), but, looking at the pictures, they were all very pretty and sexy dresses, and I'm sure all of them will still be okay to wear today, though maybe only Lady GaGa would wear Cher's outfit without needing to be dared. They were all so feminine and pretty, EVEN Madonna's outfit and Cher's.

And I got to thinking that the outfits that women get to wear makes up a big chunk of the feminine mystique, and I am sure it is one of the bigger things that most of us here at BCTS are so fascinated with.

As all of us left the office for the night (Cricket and I gave three of the girls a lift home, as it was near 2AM already), I continued thinking about it. I thought of the reasons why I wanted to switch genders, as I have done so many, many times before. Having to switch again to stereotypes, as it was the only way I could think of gender subjects, I pondered the question, with only half of my attention on my driving, the directions that the girls gave me and the conversation that was happening all around. I pondered. Even when I got home, I still pondered.

Was it about the physicality of the thing, the female accoutrements (clothes and so on), the position one is afforded to in society (the role of the nurturer and friend as opposed to the conqueror and provider) the ability to give vent to my emotionality, or to indulge in those things that the supposed "softer" sex are entitled to?

Truth be told, I think, for me, it's for all of these reasons, with a portion of the reason being that I did not find acceptance in the world as male, and maybe being female, I would be more accepted.

Whatever the reasons, the die is cast now. And as I make my way in this world, I try to find joy in my new reality. And, for my day-to-day, I try to have fun, even though that's so hard to do on some days.

One of the ways to have fun, at least for me, is in indulging in feminine clothes. The more feminine, the more fun. Although, it's always a very sharp edge to straddle - trying to dress and look okay or making all the errors Ugly Betty does. True, even true girls, not just TS and TG girls, have problems in acquiring a working fashion sense. But in trying on clothes, buying them, and imagining how feminine, pretty, and good-looking you are in the mirror and thinking these thoughts - that's fun.

Truthfully, finding your fashion choices validated by your peers is also satisfying, but the trying on, the buying and the daydreaming and the fooling yourself on how pretty you look - I guess that's a different level of "fun."

In the article I read, the advertisement catchphrase that Diane Von Furstenberg coined when she came out with her wrap dress ("feel like a woman - wear a dress") echoed in my mind. I decided to break my promise of not spending too much for a while. I'm gonna go out later and break in my new gold card and buy an outfit or four. I'm gonna call my officemates and see if they want to go with me. Hope they haven't gone to bed, yet.

Anyway, what are you doing staying up this late?! Go to bed! (heehee. joke!)

   
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I'm not late! :)

It's three in the afternoon where I am!

Faraway


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Faraway


On rights of free advertisement:
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Where you can fool around like you want to and most you get is some bemused good ribbing!

Just wait...

...for PS to reply with the time where he is :D

The original post was apparently made at 7:44am BST (in the UK where I live) so it would have been 6:44pm in New Zealand.

So as Bobbie was getting ready to go to bed, I was having breakfast, Faraway would probably have been having lunch, and PS was probably settling down to dinner!

Time zones - don't ya just love 'em?!

 


There are 10 kinds of people in the world - those who understand binary and those who don't...

As the right side of the brain controls the left side of the body, then only left-handers are in their right mind!

Time

Just gone past 10pm here on Saturday evening (10:14pm as I write this).

I'm just thinking about heading to bed with an ebook.

Physical Synchronicity


Bike Archive

Hey, it's one of the bennies

of being a women in this society to be able to indulge in that kind of stuff. I had a bit of an opportunity when I first transitioned way back when. In my position, it was always full business attire and maybe on occasion, business casual. With bad feet, the joy of heels wears off very quickly. I found out quickly I am very much a middle of the road casual girl and not the girly-girl type who values comfort over anything else. Not to say that I do not like to be pretty once in a while.

My take has always been that if you one transitions merely for the clothes then keep in mind that age will always catch us all. Luckily most of us are not that shallow and recognize that all the other aspects of womanhood is what makes it worthwhile; feeling whole, mind body and soul. Looking good and being attractive is surely frosting on the cake - but I happen to like frosting ;-).

I've always confessed that I was a bit of a dweeb as a man and being trans ironically helped bring me closer to my full potential. A silver lining to say the least. There is always more to learn, there is no end point in a trans journey, it's just life, but for bad or for good, we makes our choices and we better be strong enough to stand up to those choices.

Have fun shopping ! If you find something awesome (not shoes) in a size 6, let me know but make sure it's not purple or orange, not my colors ;-)

Kim

None of your business...

What I was doing - at that wee hour in the morning... :-)

But, earlier in the evening, I pretended (mostly) to be a guy again, and escorted my three favorite ladies to the Opera (ooh, I so wish I could have dressed up too, but *sighs* one of these days...). Porgy & Bess! Such beautiful music.

Oh, sorry, distracted. It is kinda interesting, the things we think of at strange hours. After working to those hours (not had to for a few years, thank heavens!) the one thing I always dreaded, was driving home... I actually "slept" on the floor once (they had a gym, and I'd had the foresight to bring the needed change...). Dense carpet - like they have in so many offices, is NOT my preferred place to sleep. LOL

Oops, got off track again. The topics you bring up are some of the ones I worked through with my first shrink - 25 years ago. At the time, for me anyway, I came to the conclusion that clothing was not the biggest thing for me. Oh, I'm not saying I didn't want/like to wear nice cloths. Far from it. But, once I understood it wasn't "insanity" that I was experiencing, I felt it other factors. A significant part, was actually a desire for others to recognize me for who I am, rather than what they thought they saw. Another, was my desire to have children (myself). I remember how envious I was of my shrink (she was pregnant)... She did eventually ask what I thought about the topic.

Thanks for these blogs. They actually make me think back over my life (sometimes) and about how things will be after my transition. (Yeah, if I've not said before, I believe it's only a matter of time...) I hope you don't mind my personal observations/thoughts, even whey they wander afield from your blog.

Thanks,
Ann