The Working Girl Blog #57: Thanksgiving, for real

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Blog #57: Thanksgiving, for real

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I'm in a good place today. Never would have thought I would be, especially after what happened a couple of months ago. But here we are.

I guess I wouldn't think so, but lots of things - good things - have been happening to me recently. And, true, what happened two months ago was not a good thing, but it's forced me to take a more aggressive attitude towards things. Perhaps "aggressive" is not exactly the right word, though the only other word that comes to mind is "assertive," but that also feels wrong, but I think you know what I mean. And it's made me less shy, and more willing to fight for my rights. Sure, they're not anything major, like the right to free speech et cetera, but very important to someone like me - like the right to be given attention while speaking in a meeting, or the right to my spot in a line, or the right not to be nervous while picking out my girl clothes in my favorite store. Stupid, huh? But I think I am less shy, more assertive, nowadays, and more willing to believe that I'm worthy of my dreams, or at least stand my ground and fight for them.

It's a confluence of things, really. My friends willing to go out of their way to show support, and to defend me if need be; those not my friends not doing anything really bad; the basic legal statutes of the city and state being in my favor; and my company bending over backwards to support and protect (although I know they're only doing so because of self interest and not out of any kind of altruism) - without these, I'm sure I would not be as fearless or as willing to stake whatever it was that was in me to stake, and perhaps because of this, I think I am better off. The fact that no other major negative stuff has happened, and at the same time lots of good things, materially-wise, have been happening just reinforces this feeling.

So I have lots to be thankful for.

My room mate and I are having late Thanksgiving lunch at my folks later, maybe go and window-shop a bit or watch a movie afterwards, and then later in the evening, we're going to my old buddy's place (a pre-RLT/SRS buddy) and have thanksgiving dinner. He's gonna introduce his new significant other to me and my other pre-SRS buds (I think I blogged about them before). I just hope my room mate can take the double whammy of my folks and my geeky friends on the same day. Maybe I'll blog about it later.

Tomorrow, I think we're gonna stay in and just veg out. It's tempting to shop - what with the numerous sales that'll be happening tomorrow, but my room mate and I have decided to save our money and not make any major purchases until we've moved in to the new place in January. We don't really have room for new stuff in the apartment, and the move is still in January. Yes, I'm giving up my apartment of eight years and will be moving to a nice one-story bank-owned post-foreclosure house in the burbs, courtesy of my company and the country's real estate meltdown. Timing might be off, but we have to move in within a month or so otherwise the company won't be able to get the place for us at the preferred cost.

Anyway - like I said, it's a real, honest-to-goodness thanksgiving day for me.

Hope you, too, have a good Thanksgiving.

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I admire your bravery.

I really do know how much things like happened a couple months ago can tear your sails to shreds.

Oddly enough, most of my pain has been suffered at the hands of the devout. Still, we have to try don't we. I am so happy that you have a roomate, and some family that is supportive. That means so much. And here is hoping that you can continue to build a reputation based on your skills, and personality, not your Tness.

We must often act like we have the bravery and confidence that we do not feel deep inside. Hopefully, your confidence will return to what it once was, and in the future when trials come, your past will give you strength.

Much peace

Khadijah

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Yes, I use Facebook... But, it's nice to hear such a positive blog.

I also have so much to be thankful for, and have to keep reminding myself of this when things seem to go south. Having accepting (& more) friends is wonderful. I'm so glad you have such - and that your roommate has been such a one (even if she "caused" you to get a different hair style than you expected that time).

Thank you for sharing these glimpses into your life - both the good and when necessary, the not so good. For me, they serve as a reminder that things CAN be good, but they can also be bad. Knowing others who have come back from serious situations and seeing these peeks at your life is also encouraging.

Thank you,
Anne