Life is on top of me right now.

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Firstly, an apology. I am sorry that I have not really been around and contributing. I haven't been writing anything over the last few weeks, despite sitting down occasionally and staring at the computer screen. My elderly and cantankerous Dad decided to have a massive stroke about a month ago and was rushed to hospital. He needed regular visiting, which was trying and tiring, as I saw a rapid deterioration in him each time. We had a family holiday booked, with the children and grandchildren, so we took them all away, and I managed to sneak back to the hospital. I last saw him last Monday in a dreadful state, but an understanding doctor decided to take him off everything except for some meds to calm and make him sleep. After praying for him and holding his hand for a couple of hours, he went to sleep. he never woke up. He passed the next day.

Secondly, thanks to all those who followed me on facebook and sent me messages. They helped. I am now doing the executor stuff, like arranging the funeral and all the rest. I have so many books on the back burner that I desperately want to get back to, but whenever I sit and try to write, everything else overwhelms me and I can't focus at all.

My mother died a year an a half ago, and as an only child, it is all down to me. Also, I now realise that I'm next! (Hopefully not for a while)

Tanya

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Oh dear sweet woman

Andrea Lena's picture

To lose both parents in such a short span of time, and this in the midst of all the other things that pull at you in life. I am so sorry for your loss, but am so grateful that the doctor helped you and your father in his passing. God bless, dear heart!

  

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So so sorry for your loss Tanya

I know this pain all to well, I loss my Mother three years ago and I'm still dealing with the executor stuff. Not a day goes by I don't think of her. Tanya, sending you Hugs and Prayers dear one for strength to get though this painful time, Talia

My Prayers are with you!

It's never easy losing a parent and you do realize your own mortality when it happens. To have to shoulder all this on your own is a huge chore and I hope you have others who can help support you at this time. If not, please reach out to someone. It probably doesn't seem like it right now, but time does help heal.

Suzij

The Biggest

And most gentle of hugs to you and yours.
Grover

Oh my God

*hugs you tons*

I am so sorry hon and am praying you will find the peace within you to carry on. If you need me, PM me please. I will call you day or night, doesn't matter when. You are very special to me.

Sephrena

My thoughts are with you…

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…as I know this feels the loneliest time of any woman's life. You are not really alone though as you can see by looking down this page and seeing how many people care for you

Rhona McCloud

All my love to you and your family

There are no words that can convey my heartfelt feelings for you during this time of your loss. Stay well and know we all love you and are praying for you.

Endless hugs, Sarah Ann

To lose family is never easy

To lose both your mom and dad in short order is awful.

PLEASE take care of yourself, Tanya.

John in Wauwatosa

John in Wauwatosa

Condolences.

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Sorry to hear that. No need for apologies, real life comes first. Take care of your self and whatever else you needs doing. Write when your ready or need to.

*sends prayers, for you and your loved ones*
~Hypatia >i<

Many appropriate things

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There are many appropriate things that one can say at this moment. But having gone though something similar recently, I have come to know that they are not enough, and there are only a couple of things that really count.

One is for people to be around you. Perhaps not to just tell you these appropriate things, but to just be there, perhaps to just listen to you, and to help fill the void. Of course, nothing can replace a loved one, but having people around you will help, even if to just to partially fill the void, and maybe in time that void will be just a little smaller.

The other thing is knowing, truly knowing, that you aren't the only one who has gone through this. The trouble in this world is that tragic moments have been clichéd to death with countless movies, TV shows, books and other works of fiction, and it sort of makes you immune. My own experience has told me that talking to someone you know who has gone theough what you have gone through helps.

It helps a lot.

So don't stay at home and brood. Go meet friends. Or even just stay at a coffee place and be around people. Just don't be alone. I know.

Anyway, I will not say the usual things, except to extend my condolences, and to say that I am just one PM away if you wish to chat online, and talk about whatever you want to talk about.

Be well.

 
 
   

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My condolences Tanya

As another only child, I believe that I understand the feeling that I am next and it is not that far away as I cannot hide the fact that I am well into my senior years.

As others have said - time heals all - but they forget to mention that the time can be lonely when the connection with our youth disappears. Surround yourself with those who please you and remember the good times with your parents. I lost my father 55 years ago and my mother 33 years ago. Life is what we make of it and you have contributed to the enjoyment of many through your writing.

On the positive side you have been relieved of any responsibility for your dear departed parents which in my case allowed me to pay more attention to my current family.

Mourn your loss and look to your future with fond memories.

Ruth

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