I should flirt more?

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Dorothy Colleen

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I got one strange piece of advice from my councilor yesterday, and that was that I should flirt with people - not in a "I'd like to date you" kind of way, but be friendly and complimentary and social. I'm not entirely sure I know how to "flirt" causally as a male would, much less how a woman does it, so it could be interesting ...

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And who's to say

you shouldn't be flirting in the romantic sense? There are some super hot Lesbian/BiSexual women out there. ;)

you wouldnt know any, would you extravagace?

Some Extravagant Honorable Samurai Cat-MegaTomboy, maybe?

Bats her eyes prettily.

I'll be waiting for you...

If you think you can handle me. ;)

Just Be careful

It sounds like good advice, But Please BE CAREFUL. You don't want to do that with the erong person.

RAMI

She's so right!

What's the worst that can happen...???. You get a bite, or at least a nibble. That sets you up for the rest of the day and makes you smile. No risk. If it/he/she persists, you let them down gently and still remain friends..... Go for it Girl! Lots of love, Ginger xxx

I think...

You might be surprised just how naturally it'll come to you if you just "let up" a little. Maybe you have to try a little harder than other women, maybe not, but I can tell you I never had the littlest inkling how to be social as a man... However, I'm becoming much more naturally social these days. I suppose I can't actually definitely say "as a woman", but I really do get a strong sense that it IS as a woman would be social.

Abigail Drew.

Friendly

I get teased a lot at work for being a compulsive flirt around the male of the species. It's all lies of course... *ahem*

One of the things that was said to me very shortly before I went full time at work for my RLT (at the point everyone had been told what was coming) was from someone who I didn't know well. She said that if it made me smile more instead of scowl then it was a good thing and it made me think about how I came across to people. I try hard now to have a small upturned corners smile on my face when I'm walking about the offices for example. I kind of view it like selling, except the product I'm selling here is me.

I'd suggest starting small and don't do anything to far outside your comfort zone as it will feel awkward to you and everyone else. I've found giving people a smile when you first meet them (even if its only a short, small smile) and making eye contact briefly (even if you then turn away) goes a long way. It makes you more approachable and people more likely to initiate engagement with you.

Good luck!

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."