When I first went online looking for answers for my gender issues, I came across a site called Daily Strength that I found very helpful. (My profile can be found here: http://www.dailystrength.org/home/profile ) One of the features is the ability to create a goal, and I decided that mine was to "become whole". I wasn't 100 % clear what I meant by that, and in fact my idea of "wholeness" has radically changed. When I joined that site, I viewed my need to be female or as feminine as possible as a form of addiction, and hoped that somehow I could be cured of it. Now, I understand that I am female in my head and heart, no matter what I may want or desire, and my goal is to reconcile my body to meet that. I've got a long way to go, but I think I can finally say I'm on my way.