Previously, I had thought that "Bondage Discipline Sadism and Masochism" were, creepy, perverted and lewd. However, today I had an epiphany about it, at least some of it.

I have often joked about needing a spanking, and finally understood that being raised in a loveless, brutal childhood, I came to see being beaten as a sort of affection.

Today, I have been feeling the keen urge to be held and huged and loved. Now I understand that is what self bondage is about. When someone hugs you, you don't have much control over when they let you go, but to most people a hug is non threatening, so is interpreted as affection. Now I can see that self bondage can be like that, especially if someone has to let you go, or if you have developed a sure but unregulated means of being let go. You can't control it, so it can come to mean a type of affection to the very desperate. It is not really about sex or masturbation but about a deep need to be cared for.

Hmmmm

Gwendolyn